Is this snoring problem you think he has, keeping him awake?
If the snoring is not keeping him awake then he doesn’t have a snoring problem, however you might have an awake problem that’s trying to speak to you.
What’s the real problem?
If the snoring isn’t keeping him awake then he doesn’t have a snoring problem. If you feel there’s a problem then you’re right, however the one with the pain is always the one with the problem so if it’s your problem then you’ve got control!
Is the pain really that you don’t feel in control? Is it that you didn’t get to bed before him/her and give yourself time to fall asleep first? Is it that you didn’t buy ear plugs that could turn the snoring into a subdued background sound.
You’re super smart, why have you set up this snoring problem?
If you are the one in the pain, you are the one with the problem. What are you getting out of this situation? Is it a way of trying to push the person away because you feel you need more space? Are you angry at them for reasons you’re not facing up to. What’s really bothering you that you cannot rest or find peace about?
How can you flip this and have it work out well for you?
You set this up, have you thought about why? Whether it’s snoring or general insomnia, are you trying to get to sleep because the clock is insisting it’s a certain time when perhaps your mind has some ideas it wants to play with; is this about giving up control? Have you been dreaming about time alone, well here it is, what do you want it for?
Have you considered sitting with a cup of tea and letting ideas and day dreams play out? Have you considered you’re not as tired as society says you need to be?
Is it the fight that’s really draining you? Some people are perfectly functional, energetic and healthy with three hours sleep (me included).
The pain is never the problem, the confusion causing the pain is the problem
The pain is never the problem, the pain is the evidence of a fight we endure in our heads that causes resistance… and resistance drains energy. You have created “a disturbance” because it exists. It is likely that the snoring is only happening to trigger you.
All pain and sickness is literally an accumulated state of conflict in the mind; the body has to go where the mind goes. The good news is that the grace period to soothe that conflict is considerable but much of that 20 year or so year period, can be spent in ignorance so devastation feels like a shock. Free yourself today, there’s still time to dissolve this pain!
Do the exercise to remove the emotional resistance.
MOMENT OF CLARITY
If another person is the reason why you’re in pain then the other person is in control. If you’ve decided that they’re in control, the situation will feel hopeless. Does it? If so, that’s only because you think they’re in control. Once you realise that, YOU caused it, only then can you feel the power you have to change it. Is today the day you take back control and figure out why you smartly set this up?
