Any time you feel bad, whether it’s an emotion or a physical pain, it’s what is called a trigger. This trigger is your energy fields (or body) letting you know about resistance. The following exercise will shift that resistance.
Here’s one example of how resistance and trapped energy ends up in our energy fields.
Five year old John is out with his dad shopping. While they’re walking along holding hands, little John suddenly claps eyes on this gorgeous little red fire engine in a shop window. For a few seconds he pulls away from dad and dad loses grip of his hand. 
At that moment, John feels he’s lost dad and the feeling of ‘abandonment’ rushes through his nervous system.
A few seconds later, dad grabs hold of his hand again and with a warm smile says,”Oh there you are, come on, let’s go”.
John’s body takes all its instructions from his nervous system. The activation of his fight of flight mechanisms means “I am in danger, please protect me from this”.
His body then marries the ‘physical situation of what happened on the outside’ to the ‘bad/dangerous emotion’ going on inside. So to the body the instruction becomes this:–
Feeling abandoned is dangerous, I don’t like this energy, keep me away from it. So every time John feels this excited feeling that mirrored the sensations he experienced when he saw the red fire engine, his body tries to keep him away from what he’s doing in that situation. The body recorded this situation which is now a belief system. Every time John’s endorphins fire off about something good he wants to do or is excited about his body will remember the situation that’s locked into his nervous system and will instantly feel “we will be abandoned”, we cannot let this happen.
If John’s feelings had been soothed and calmed within a limited time, this energy wouldn’t be considered a danger. However, there was no conversation about his feelings. This experience running through John’s nervous system was left long enough that his body now considers this a ‘rule’ or behaviour (or belief).
John’s father didn’t speak to him and reassure him. He didn’t take time to bend down to John’s level so he could see whether he was actually feeling safe. He didn’t say, “See I’m here, there’s nothing to be afraid of. Was you feeling scared? Even if I let go of your hand, you’re always safe. There’s nothing to be afraid of. Are you OK?” That conversation didn’t happen, so John didn’t get to feel calm and peaceful.
Whilst dad had moved on and thinks John’s fine (because they’re holding hands again), little John’s nervous system is still in fight or flight mode. He’s still feeling a sense of danger because he is too young and not coherent enough to process what happened for himself. Dad assumed that as they are holding hands again, John is feeling safe.
As time moves on, on the outside, it looks like this trapped energy has resolved itself because John has moved onto another situation, but it hasn’t! This feeling of abandonment is still in his body’s energy fields and is being protected by his body’s phenomenal immune defence system (because the body registers this energy as ‘dangerous’ and so the body must protect John from it).
As John gets older, another situation comes up where he feels passionate and excited about something he wants to do. It’s not a red fire engine but it could be anything from wanting to try a new sport, daring to talk to a girl he likes, thinking about a new job, taking a trip abroad, etc. Each time this happens, his body alerts him to the presence of this energy by sending a surge through his nervous system to tell him “this is dangerous, you will be abandoned”.
John doesn’t understand that this is just his immune defence sending him a pain for bad feeling to ask, “John, is this OK. Last time this happened I sensed danger, is it still dangerous“? John doesn’t hear that conversation. All he feels is the sensation of nervousness, exhaustion, a funny feeling in his stomach or just a general feeling of impending doom and gloom.
John then interprets this as, something is telling me I shouldn’t do this right now. So he stops chasing what he wants and settles for something less or just leaves things as they are.
Imagine your body has a million cells. When you experience a trauma that’s unresolved, the trapped energy, that your immune system is defending you against, is still in your body. Therefore, using John’s experience as an example, four of your cells may contain ‘feelings of abandonment’ but now the rest of you is protecting you from four of your cells.
Now you have a situation where part of you is protecting YOU from YOUR SELF! You’re fighting inside your self which I know will make sense; much of life can feel like a fight without any outward evidence of what it is you’re actual fighting.
The emotion that’s trapped, whether it is anger, feeling worthless, invisible, stupid, back pain, a headache etc., is not actually the problem. The body doesn’t care about the vibration of the energy, whether that be laughter or frustration. It only responds to “is this acceptable or not’. If it senses resistance in you and that resistance is not let go of in a reasonable amount of time, figuratively speaking, your immune system sends soldiers out to defend you against this energy.
You might laugh at this analogy but it’s like sending a message to your body to protect you from your leg! The problem amplifies because your body’s defence system is second to none so the efficiency and commitment with which it’s protecting you, from you, is a formidable fight … you have to tell your body to ‘stand down’ somehow.
The exercise allows you to see the trapped emotion, breathe so you tell the body this is safe now and allow the feeling to wash over you completely. By letting yourself feel the emotion without any wincing away from it, it helps the body identify as much of this energy as it can and where it is.
By saying I feel this and I accept it, all resistance to that energy is dissolved and it is integrated as part of you. You just became “more of you”. You access more power because now resistance has been reduced. You are becoming more whole! We have been taught for as many generations as we can remember, that we are supposed to pretend the feeling is not there. To be positive and put a smile on our face and all that does is tell the body that this energy is still dangerous and I am not OK with it… so the immune system keeps it locked down and is causing chaos in the flow of the body. What happens inside the body’s energy systems is precisely the dynamic that then happens in life; resistance on the inside is resistance on the outside.
Your authentic self is the truth of who you are in this physical reality. It is not the search to find the full perfection of your entire soul right now. You are authentic when you acknowledge you’re angry instead of trying to distract yourself from the feeling. When you stop creating a fraudulent condition and pretend to be alright and ignore the reality of what you’re feeling. Your game in life is not to figure out that you’re a soul having an experience in a physical body. Your game is to have experiences and when the juice has gone out of them, let them go and have another one.
Life is a series of adventures. We experience being a baby, a child, a teenager, an adult, an employee, a partner, a friend. There are many seasons and each one delivers something joyful. There will be contrast all the way through and this contrast is here to show us how to move to the next chapter.
Every time we open up a new experience, our energy fields shift to accommodate that change which means things as they are have to deconstruct. Some shifts are more obvious such as a job change, house move etc., but most are so subtle we don’t notice. Just like the parking spot showing up just when we need it; we think it’s just luck but there’s a parallel reality where that was not going to happen for you but now it has because of the expansion you’re doing.
We become great at fighting changes because we want more conscious control of what comes next. However, by releasing resistance in our energy fields, what comes next is perfect and phenomenally better than any conscious plan we can make.
Everything you need to know for your experiences are hot-wired into you which is being transmitting continuously. All you need to focus on is finding the energy of resistance that’s jamming the channel. To use an analogy, your soul’s transmitting on 101FM and because of resistance/interference with your energy fields, you’re transmitting on 82FM. Practically, that means that every day your soul’s saying I love that green flowery dress in the boutique down the road, or those gorgeous car rims. However, because of resistance, the current version of you is choosing to settle for something else and is exhausted by the effort to justify it. Alternatively, it means the thing you want isn’t showing up because you’re in a different reality to where it’s currently at.
Resistance happens due to traumas, which for the most part, have occurred in childhood or we’ve carried them forward in our memory banks from past lives. It’s important to understand that a trauma does not have levels. To the nervous system, fear is fear. There’s no ‘this is more fearful than that’. That is a perception based on the picture of the situation in our mind. A trauma is by definition, ‘a psychological shock’. A shock is an unexpected and unpleasant event. Therefore a trauma is a psychological, unpleasant and unexpected event. In terms of the effect on our life it’s literally traumatic and can cause constriction and suffering for decades and in most cases lifetimes, until it´s seen and healed.
Each trigger of pain, is a alerting you that more of you is wanting to be experienced. Just like the game you used to play when you were young at birthday parties. Someone blind folds you and hides something. Then you fumble around trying to find it but you only get guidance from those around you shouting ‘getting warmer’ or ‘getting colder’ as you move closer or further away. Resistance means ‘getting colder’; what you’re doing and feeling is in the way of you finding the next gem which is sitting waiting for you to be available. You know how to play the game, you know what feels ‘warmer or colder’ by how it feels.
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