How can releasing confusion
improve my relationships and avoid divorce?

Because it’s your perspective
that uplifts or destroys your relationships

When we think about relationships we automatically think of two or more people involved. This is a total mis-perception which deludes us into thinking how we feel is because of the other person. Our relationships are technically the emotions we feel while we are relating to this other person. A relationship is literally how you relate. If it feels bad it’s because the way you’re looking at what they’re doing is causing you to feel bad. However, ultimately, you’re the one in control. Nobody can push their fingers through your skin and push the angry button.

Here’s the basic premise that will flip your view of your life on its head. Within you are masculine and feminine energies which are being broadcast out into physical reality based on the vibrational state you’re in at any given moment. Men are demonstrating how your male is feeling and women, how your female is feeling. The goal is not to try and change people, the goal is to change your perspective such that when you talk to them you know precisely what you are talking to within yourself!

So why does this change my life?

It’s significance is that it gives you a more tangible way to have a relationship with yourself. You become more aware of what’s going on inside you and able to control it. Now you realise any effort is you giving to you instead of shutting down because you feel the other person doesn’t deserve it.

How to use your masculine and feminine energy powerfully

How to flip your perspective
& power up your game

If you are a parent, you already know how a parent will go to the ends of their stamina, patience, energy, belief, resources and beyond for your child. The reason why you treat a child differently is because in your mind you perceive them as “an extension of you”. A parent feels a child belongs to them and therefore it drives a more selfish attitude energetically.

There’s nothing wrong with being selfish if it makes you feel good because your feelings are the only ones that drive your life. While parents feel they are being unselfish by giving to their children, it is actually an illusion. The endless energy is coming from within because it is effecting them powerfully.

 

Here’s the kicker, here’s where life gets exciting. If you imagine your wife or husband (or anyone for that matter) as an extension of yourself, suddenly the game changes in magnificent ways. It’s so much easier to see how you gain by giving instead of expecting all the giving and compromise having to come from the other person.

Keep this mind, if you didn’t create it, you can’t change it. Give love, time, patience to yourself. You’ve heard the phrase “do unto others as you would have done to you”… this is not about being a “nice person”, this is about being totally selfish and loving yourself!

To marry or not to marry?
Get clear once and for all.

That’s easy, marry if you want to. As a creator, it’ simply a case of whether you suddenly feel excited by this experience. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise because it is nonsense. People will always try to project their preferences onto you but the truth sets you free to be you. Follow your heart.

However, whether marriage becomes part of your life or not, the dynamic has something powerful to offer everyone in understanding how to marry your masculine and feminine energies to create exciting experiences. Ways to marry ourselves and stop the conflict within us; how to recognise and get rid of resistance to having what we want.

What is Marriage?

The most important reason marriages break up is because of the mis-perception of what marriage is. Marriage is the coming together of two people to create a life together. Instead we’ve unconsciously perceived it as let’s get together so you can make me happy. My partner must behave the way I want otherwise I can’t have the life I want. (There are many other misunderstood perceptions that compound relationship break ups). Actually, a partner is simply there to help you find your happiness and to support you to stay there as much as possible. Your happiness doesn’t come from what your partner does or doesn’t do.

Here’s an example of a story of woman who divorced. I heard a woman criticising a couple because they were now sleeping in separate bedrooms. She felt (and I quote) “they were more like best friends”. It turns out that she had recently divorced.  Her body language and tone demonstrated that she thought “being best friends” was something “going wrong”. The fact that she was irritated was an indication that she wasn’t quite at peace with that conclusion as much as she thought. (When we are feeling disturbed such as anger, irritation, frustration, it means we have two opposing views inside; one agrees with our opinion and another doesn’t.) Perhaps it was because she had not found the best friend in her own relationship that was the reason they parted.

My partner has stopped being my best friend

If your partner has stopped being your best friend it’s always because of your dialogue. Your dialogue will reveal what you perceive about your partner and where you perceive the real power for your happiness is. Marriage is not 50/50, being tied together, not being free, being in love or being parents. Even the orgasm reinforces the case that no matter what the “outer stimulation”, the actual ecstasy called an orgasm is actually happening within you; you have access to the ecstasy.

Marriage is about holding hands with a commitment “to love on purpose”. Your focus should be to raise your vibration so you can enjoy all the experiences you want. If you are skeptical and assuming that all the practical stuff is more essential, it isn’t. The practical stuff will get done because improving the vibration of your feelings will change the course of things. (This is explained in more detail in the passage below on male and female energy. You can see that the masculine energy within us drives the physical stuff and we struggle because we stop listening, validating and allowing our feminine energy to be expressed).

Can you love a child?

The reason why parents don’t give up on children is because they perceive a child as an extension of their self. It’s so much easier to give them love. If you have children you already know about giving endless time, patience, energy, stamina and there’s never a scoreboard.  Children show us what love actually is; a feeling we choose on purpose. That’s exactly how we need to treat a partner to get the best of what the relationship can offer.

It’s not a partner that’s making you unhappy, it’s your own emotion. Something you’re in complete control of. Your perception of what’s happening and what should happen, is what’s causing you to feel bad.

If your partner was your child you’d instinctively be thinking “how can I help you be more happy” . Just because your partner is an adult, it doesn’t mean they should give up their child like wants. That’s actually the problem, none of us ever get rid of them because they are what drives our purpose for being here. However, somehow we think that being an adult is about responsibility for getting things done regardless of how it feels. The irony is that because we have stopped giving importance to whether it feels good, what we focus on is not fruitful which causes us to figure we need to do more and on and on the pain goes.

See your partner (and anyone you meet) as a child. The goal is to have conversations that allow them to have what they want and support them to feel good about it. Shutting down other people is just you shutting you down. If they’re not allowed to do what they want it’s because you can feel that you don’t let yourself have what you want. Marriage offers a great mirror to see how you really treat yourself. Having another person with you is in fact an illusion; any help you perceive is coming from them is actually happening because you have the love going on inside you and so they are just another person being used as a pawn in your success game.

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Why Marriage?

Everything created by our creator/source is created on a physical level to show us how we make things happen and what is the most effective way to have what makes us happy. It’s easy to notice nature and the lessons in the ways the seasons continue to change but we so often miss the need in our own lives. Marriage is a demonstration of “marrying our male and female characteristics” in order to “birth” a new creation. This is not something that is dependent on being married at all; being happy is not dependent on sharing your life with another person!

Marriage is a wonderful way for each of us to see ourselves more clearly. It gives us clarity about what is really going on inside ourselves. A commitment really helps us by helping ourselves address where we are not “loving or co-operating” with ourselves. It is much easier to feel how good or bad we feel when we are relating to other people.

Why is it so hard to get along with the other sex?

In short, it is because we have not been taught how to. On the outside we only see our self as either a man or a woman so it’s easy to push the other sex away because we don’t get them. Once you know that you contain male and female energy and that knowing how they work together to win can help you, it’s easy to find the motivation. Pushing away a partner can be the same as pushing away the most exciting breakthrough we could find. It’s not that you have to joined to a man or woman, it’s simply that they can show you how you are relating to yourself inside!

Marriage itself is not a struggle

The dynamic of marriage has not been created to be a struggle but to the contrary, to show us faster how unhappy we make ourselves and how much of a resource we have in that partner. Not only in the access to 100% support but in the sense that they have qualities and talents that we can harness by first recognising that:

  1. if it showing up in them, it is inherent and accessible in us;
  2. if we can get the dialogue loving enough, we can open the flood gates of those resources (which otherwise we would have to do ourselves). We’ve become accustomed to assuming the role of “I can do it all” and just because we can doesn’t mean we have to.

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MALE (MEN)

Physical Reality (The actual journey)

He helps you get their physically and depends the speed

Every man in front of you is attracted by you. No matter who he is, your emotional reaction to him is demonstrating in a physical way your relationship with the physical aspects of your life. He is mirroring information about your ability to make things happen and insights into how fast you’re making it happen. When dealing with men it will help flip your perspective if you see him as “my power to make it happen”.  So when you’re relating to him and feel bad, it’s telling you that your relationship with your power to make things happen and your masculine energy is disturbed and not in flow. The solution is not to fix everything but to find a peaceful feeling.

The man on the outside is not you, you don’t have to try and control him because the destruction is only your emotions, not the detail of what’s going on. Men (regardless of whether you are a man or woman yourself) are powerful tools to help navigate what’s really going on inside. Keep in mind, everything you want that hasn’t arrived yet feels good (it’s a higher vibration). Tweaking your conversations (or just staying out of them and keeping your mouth shut) can get you there faster. How close you feel they are to you is totally irrelevant when it comes to attracting a better life. If you feel bad then turn it around because you’re the only one who can lose.

Using an analogy of life as a journey, men are the car, they help you determine whether you can actually reach your destination and how fast you will get there. Women are the road map, they help you determine how your experience will be on this trip; boring motorway or exciting trip full of wonderful new experiences. The key is to acknowledge how you feel and if it’s bad, flip it so you can feel better.

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FEMALE (WOMEN)

Non-Physical Reality (The road map)

She determines what the experience will feel like

Every woman in front of you is attracted by you. No matter who she is, your emotional reaction to her is demonstrating in a physical way your relationship with the non-physical aspects of your life. He is mirroring information about how the experience will feel. When dealing with women it will help flip your perspective if you see her as the quality of the experience.  So when you are relating to her and feel bad, it is telling you that your relationship with your ability to influence experience and your feminine energy is disturbed and not in flow. The solution is not to fix everything but to find peace emotionally.

The woman on the outside is not you, you don’t have to try and control her because the destruction is only your emotions, not the detail of what’s going on. The woman in your life (regardless of whether you’re a woman or man yourself) are powerful tools to help navigate what’s really going on inside. Keep in mind, everything you want that hasn’t arrived yet feels good (it is a higher vibration). Tweaking your conversations (or just staying out of them and keeping your mouth shut) can get you there faster. How close you feel the other person  is to you is totally irrelevant when it comes to attracting a better life. If you feel bad then turn it around because you’re the only one who can lose.

Using an analogy of life as a journey, men are the car, they help you determine whether you can actually reach your destination and how fast you will get there. Women are the road map, they help you determine how your experience will be on this trip; boring motorway or exciting trip full of wonderful new experiences. The key is to acknowledge how you feel and if it’s bad, flip it so you can feel better.

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